Why I Created This Programme: My Story 

I’m Kester–a husband, father, therapist, and entrepreneur from Singapore. My wife Kavitha and I co-founded SACRED (formerly Intracresco®) to help people build intentional, sacred relationships. 

For most of my life, I struggled with what it meant to be a man. As a sensitive child, I was teased for not fitting into traditional masculine norms. 

Becoming a husband to Kavitha and a stepfather pushed me to confront insecurities about not being “man enough:” 

• As a husband, I struggled to stay grounded in emotionally intense moments with Kavitha. I would shut down, avoid, or withdraw. 
• As a father, I felt unprepared–shouting, threatening, reacting defensively when things got tough.
• As a leader, I sacrificed my own needs to make sure everyone else was happy. This left me feeling resentful and empty.

I swung between self-blame and aggression, and underneath it all–felt deeply alone. 

I saw other men coping through distractions–burying themselves in work; avoiding home; constant travel; gaming. When I shared my struggles with others; they either blamed my wife or kid, or offered sympathy. What I needed was not someone to side with me, but offer real guidance to grow from these challenges.  

Finding mentors or coaches who understood my struggles as an Asian husband and father was incredibly difficult. I have a diploma in counselling psychology and relationship therapy, yet I struggled with real-life challenges at home. 

Books gave me information, but they didn’t show me how to embody healthy masculinity. I found deeper wisdom in indigenous teachings and eventually sought out coaches who combined modern psychology with ancient wisdom. 

The first lesson from my coach surprised me–it wasn’t about emotions or communication, but posture. Standing with my spine upright, shoulders wide, and feet firmly planted made me feel more grounded in intense situations. No modern psychology book taught me that! 

Through coaching, indigenous wisdom and personal healing, I learnt: 

• How to recognise my own triggers and heal the wounds beneath them.
• When to be strong and when to be vulnerable.
• How to lead with groundedness–not rigidity–while empowering others around me.

The more I practised, the more I grew. I felt a deep calling to bring these learnings in a structured way to empower men like you. 

As Kavitha and I worked on balancing masculinity and femininity in our relationship, we developed The SACRED Relationship Framework^TM–our signature approach to building intentional, resilient, and fulfilling relationships. Rooted in ancestral and tribal wisdom and adapted for modern life, this framework provides the essential building blocks for deep connection–with oneself, loved ones, and the greater web of life.

I adapted the SACRED Relationship Framework and developed tailored techniques to help men overcome their unique challenges. Thus, The SACRED Masculinity Programme was born. 

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SACRED is an ecosystem that cultivates intentional, sacred relationships, community and belonging through courses, mentorship, and corporate workshops. Offerings at SACRED are based on the SACRED Relationship Framework, which adapts ancestral and tribal wisdom for modern life.