A huge moth visited and stayed at our home for 3 days late last month.
(Does anyone know what this species is called? Please reply and let us know.)
IDK if it’s normal to see a huge moth of this sort. This is the first time in my (Kavitha) 42 years, I’m seeing a moth this big!!!
I distinctly remember the night the moth arrived.
It was probably way past 7pm. Kester and I started the day hoping to finish filming days 4 and 6 of the free 7-day Relationship Reset Challenge, we created for the SACRED® community.
On that day, however, my inner child, had other plans. She decided to use the opportunity to heal her trauma on voice.
We did not have a teleprompter on hand and were recording the course entirely from memory.
Try as hard as I did, even after 20 takes, I struggled to remember the pointers.
My voice sounded childish, the examples sloppy and the whole thing felt like paper drenched in water.
Then arose a stream of unconscious belief patterns:
- “I can never remember the lines”;
- “Why is my memory not as good as Kester's”;
- “My delivery sounds hopeless; I’ve heard so many others on social media speaking eloquently, but here I am struggling with simple lines and concepts that I’ve used a zillion times in client sessions.”
After struggling for several hours with self-doubt and self-sabotage, I broke down to tears.
It was in that moment of deep dark despair, that I saw the moth fly into our filming space.
Something about its presence reassured me. But I did not think much of its presence, until 3 days later.
November was a difficult month for us.
Prior to the moth’s arrival, Kester and I had experienced several rounds of conflicts that arouse as mirroring patterns.
This led to a series of deep inner child work, excruciating inner turmoil and healing.
So much so that, by the time the moth arrived, my body felt burnt and my bones bare.
I did not know if I had the strength to move through yet another round of deep inner child work.
The moth has been around on earth for 190 million years—that’s way longer than the human species.
They have witnessed so many transitions and phases of the earth.
The moth signifies healing and transformation in tribal literature and is recognised as a sign of an ancestor visiting in some Asian cultures.
The process of working on my voice, holding space for this inner child, and gently bringing her authentic voice out, lasted three days.
Each day, the moth was there calmly reassuring me.
On the third day, when the dark clouds of self-doubt had passed, the moth fluttered out of our house, landed on the blinds at our balcony, and at night fall, it left—seemingly taking with it all the pain I’d released.
Building an authentic connection with yourself is a gentle process of holding space, listening deeply, and allowing belief systems that no longer work to be replaced with ones what aligns to your current life stage.
The same applies to your relationships as well.
It is not easy, but having moved through several, the power of its transformation is real.
Revamp of SACRED® Saturday Newsletter
Kester and I listened deeply, took feedback from the community, and have revamped the SACRED Saturdays newsletter into a personal conversation, that shows you what working on yourself and your relationships actually looks like.
Our intention is, on a weekly basis, to bring you behind the scenes, and show you how we move through conflicts, regulate our emotions, practise deep listening, and balance individual and relationship needs.
We hope that this inspires your relationship journey.
In Love and Friendship,
Kavitha Shekar-Tay
Co-Founder and Co-CEO SACRED®
Modern Relationship Advocate
P.S: After healing my voice, we refilmed day 4 and 6 of the 7-day Relationship Reset Challenge.
Curious about how my voice changed after the healing? Watch the before and after videos here.
P.P.S: Access free 7-day Relationship Reset Challenge here or gift it to someone you think might benefit from it.
