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"We're good parents, but we're not intimate anymore."

Oct 31, 2026

This week, Kavitha and I sat down for a conversation we’ve wanted to have for a long time.

It’s about what happens to a couple when a baby is on the way, and after the baby arrives.

Many couples come to us a year or so after giving birth, saying:

"We were so close before. I don't understand how we drifted apart."
"We work well as a team, but we're not intimate anymore."
"Everyone said that would be the happiest time of our lives. Why do I feel so alone?"

This is more common than we admit: two thirds of couples say their marriage satisfaction drops after a baby.

In our latest podcast, Kavitha and I talk about:

Why so many relationships struggle after a baby, and what's really behind it,
How women and men experience pregnancy and early parenthood very differently,
How to stay connected as a couple during this period.

[Click her to watch the full podcast episode]

Don't miss it! This is information no antenatal class or gynae will tell you.

In Friendship,

Kester Shekar-Tay

Principal Therapist & Co-Founder, SACRED® Institute

Co-Creator, SACRED T.R.U.S.T. Method™

P.S. Life is sacred. Live with intention.

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